Inviting an Ex to Your Wedding

 While searching through your stack of wedding planning books, you won’t find a lengthy etiquette section on inviting an ex to your wedding. Sometimes it can be crystal clear that they will not be invited; however, other times it can be a difficult question to answer.

If you invite a former flame, make sure that they are completely in the “ex” category of your love life. Picture your officiant announcing, “…Speak now or forever hold your peace.” – The next image should not be of him/her running down the aisle to object. This is not something to leave to chance, your ex will come to the realization that they are going to lose you for good; if there is even a doubt in your mind that they might stop the wedding, do not send an invite!

When inviting an ex:

• Treat him/her like any other attendee by allowing them to bring a guest
• Seat your ex with people they know and can converse with
• Limit the length of time with your ex to the receiving line and brief conversation
• When introducing your ex to others, refer to them as your “Old Friend”
• Under no circumstance should you dance with your ex

Not that you would act any differently; but be over-cautious and conservative when speaking with an ex on your wedding day. You don’t want to potentially upset your husband on the first day.